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Things I Have Learned Through The YearsPosted Tuesday, October 6, 2009, at 5:05 PM
I have raced through youth, teenage, young adult, adulthood, senescence and now reside in the suburbs of senectitude. I hope to avoid caducity.
In those years I have made several observations about life and those we encounter on our trek through life. Nostradamas has nothing on me. Readers note, the works of Nostradamus are so generic they mean anything readers want them to mean. He would be called Mr. Obvious today or Mr. Hindsight Man.
I, on the other hand, have made these observations about life and want to share them with you. Here goes:
* Most people know what is right and wrong. The difficult part is to get them to act in the right way all the time.
* Just because the preacher says it doesn't make it so.
* There are other people in the world who have needs just as you do.
* Some people demand to have everything their way all the time. They are narcissistic and self-centered. Avoid them.
* Hatred is a killer. Forgive others and you will feel better.
* I determine how my day will go.
* It is easier to give someone a piece of your mind than it is to admit you are wrong. Many times pride worms its way into our thinking and causes us to lash out at others when secretly we know we are wrong.
* Children must be allowed to live own lives once they leave you. Rejoice with them. The two most difficult aspects of life that we must give our children are foundations and wings. Wings are more difficult.
* Live within your means. Debt is a calloused tyrannical taskmaster. No one will save money for you if you don't. Too many people go through life scheming of ways to get your money.
* Keep your word or keep your mouth shut.
* A smile is always in style.
* Friends may come and go but enemies accumulate.
* I am frequently amazed at how little other people think about me.
* Don't try to be a wit if you only half succeed.
* If you can't say no to chocolate it will say yes to you.
* Envy hurts more than it helps.
* Clean your closets, attic, storage barns and your mind of all useless items and thoughts.
* If your past is unhappy let it go. You can't do anything about it. It is over. Throw it away like a used tissue.
* If the past is happy and joyful, visit often but don't live there.
* You don't have to drive the speed limit just because you can.
* Every day is a great day. Rejoice in it. Happily share it with others.
* You can't please everyone. Strive to please those whom you love and who love you. Don't abuse or misuse others just because you can't please them. Remember they have a soul also and may be struggling with life more than you realize.
* Happiness is a result of a good attitude. Every day I choose what kind of day I will have. If it is to be it is up to me.
* Forgive others even when they don't ask for it. You will have a happier life. A grudge will do more harm to the carrier than the one who it is against because most of the time the one to whom a grudge is aimed is blissfully unaware and if so that person may not care any way. Let it go. You will be better for it. Envy, grudges and hatred are acids that do more harm to the container, the one who holds them, than to the one(s) they are aimed at.
Larry grew up north of Calvertville on a farm and graduated from Worthington High School. He lives in Plainfield and can be reached at Goosecrick@aol.com or 317-839-7656. Write him at Larry Vandeventer 6860 Sunrise Drive, Plainfield, Ind., 46168. He has written five books.