"We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to [His] design and purpose. For those whom He foreknew [of whom He was aware and loved beforehand], He also destined from the beginning [foreordaining them] to be molded into the image of His Son [and share inwardly His likeness], that He might become the firstborn among many brethren.
(Romans 8:28-29, AMP)
God loved us and purposed a destiny for us before we had any knowledge of Him. He knew us before the foundations of the earth. In the beginning He called us by name and set out a purpose for us. He didn't "hang us out to dry" but instead, decreed our lives with a specific intention and fate. Can you fathom it? Now that's something worth celebrating!
Most of us can easily forget that there is a perfect plan for our lives. We like to be in control of all aspects of our lives. Giving up control leaves us feeling too vulnerable. We'd like to think we know it all too (try discussing theology with individuals from different denominations). It's good to have purpose, meaning, and goals for our lives, but not to the point where we become so self-absorbed, we trample on people along the way.
Someone who struggles with letting go of control exude signs of deep-seeded issues. They typically suffer from feelings of insecurity, codependency, fear, anxiety and are distrustful with people and most importantly, are distrustful with giving God supreme rule over their lives.
The truth is, as much as we would like to think we have it all together and want to control everything, there are many things we cannot control. That job we didn't get, that horrible rumor spread about us, disease, that unwanted divorce, sickness, death, etc. A lot of things are out of our control. That's how God designed it so we would learn to rely solely on Him. At the point where we let go of control, we can allow God to take the reigns and lead us into His perfect plan for our lives. There is so much peace, rest, and freedom that comes with letting go!
So many Believers live a life of bondage coping with fear, anxiety, and restlessness...striving earnestly to "make things happen" for themselves. When you begin to hand control over to God, you will experience amazing joy in your life knowing that no matter what, God's got your back. You will no longer find it a vulnerability to remove the mask of unwanted expectations. The enemy tries to keep God's people in bondage by deceiving us into thinking we have to meet unrealistic expectations (from ourselves or others) that ultimately only leads to unfulfillment. Think about it. How many of us have said, "When I get married....when I have the right job....make more money...have the right car...when I retire...find the right church...have a child...have three children...get a promotion...when I graduate...when I lose weight...then I will be happy." Only to find that the "thing" waiting on the other side never truly satisfied and repetitiously, we move on over to the next "want".
Sadly, Christian's skewed view of "theology" mixed with the world's demands has led many Believers to live an unsatisfied unfulfilled life. The lie that we are not good enough until we (you fill in the blank)...has led many Christian's to tirelessly run the wrong race. The only race God is calling us to run is not one of this world's system, but one that keeps the faith (2 Timothy 4:7). God promises to, "...work all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to his purpose." Understanding this, letting go of control and trusting God is where genuine freedom, joy, and contentment resides.
Christina is the founder of Relentless Love Ministries and lives in Linton. She is an active speaker, guest lecturer, and published author. For more information, questions, or comments, email firstname.lastname@example.org.