As I’ve written before, I’m a very flawed person. However, I don’t look at this as a negative thing by any means. Rather, I accept it as just being a part of human nature. The best I can do is learn more about myself and really look into these flaws and fix them, or at the very least accept them as a part of who I am.
One major issue that has plagued me for years is over thinking a situation. All too often, something comes up and I spend way too much energy contemplating the ins and outs of the issue rather than just dealing with it. This has even come down to something as simple as deciding on what to eat. Rather than just going with my gut instinct, I will spend more time trying to decide what I should do rather than the quick and easy solution. While I know this is a pretty common and simple example, it does show how my mind works, in a sense.
I recently reached out to a friend of mine with whom I’ve been able to have discussions about such fun topics such as mental health, politics and personal relationships. Needless to say, we value each others’ input and thoughts. I have to say, some of the advice she gave me when it comes to over thinking is actually pretty brilliant, and it goes as follows:
Journaling: Much in the same way I’m using this column to get my thoughts from my head, it really does help to write out whatever is going on or upsetting you. Once you can see it, you can identify factors that are either positive or negative and make a more informed or heartfelt decision that way.
Be honest with yourself: This is something that is a lot easier said than done, especially when it comes to taking care of your mental health. Some of the hardest decisions I’ve made, such as cutting some people out of my life, were because I had to sit back and reflect on what truly made me happy. Was that a person that was more positive or negative for me? Am I truly happy what I’m doing? Ironically enough, taking time to just sit and think has helped me deal with over thinking in the past.
Go out and do it: For me, this has taken the form of walking in the park after work. Not only does it help with any stress from the day, but it gives me a chance to just turn off my brain, listen to some music or talk to a family member and focus on only putting one foot forward. At these times, I get a chance to just reflect. I would highly suggest doing something that allows you to get into a similar head space.
Everybody over thinks from time to time. I just hope that by putting out the ways I deal with it can help somebody else out in a similar situation.
Andrew is a staff writer for the Greene County Daily World. He can be reached at email@example.com or 812-847-4487.