Oh can't you see what I have to put up with
When BW and I decided to get married we learned that life moves from "me" to "us" and you must adjust. BW dabbled her toes in Lake Larry and waded deeper and deeper into the ocean of love. She took a ride on the Larry-go-round and never got off.
Marriage is made in heaven but some assembly is required on earth. Too often many couples revert to their lives before the ceremony and their marriage crashes like a piece of crystal on a concrete sidewalk and all the Kings Horses and all the Kings Men cannot put it together again.
Marriage cognoscente say marriage is adjusting to one another, coping with that person you thought you knew; changing to fit each other's needs. It is all that and more. It is putting up with each other.
It must be said that at times BW and I tolerate each other. Some times as we are leaving the house she will say, "Tell me you are not going to wear that."
"Oh, no I have another outfit in the car. I was waiting to see what you are wearing so I could quickly adjust."
I knew how to dress before we married but I soon learned I needed more training.
Consider the setting of the car heater and air conditioning. BW: "Could we - meaning me - turn the heater down. Whew!I am burning up."
Me:"It is comfortable. What do you mean?" " I mean turn it down."
She was wearing long john underwear, woolen socks, wool pants, a blouse, a sweater, heavy down coat, boots, leather gloves and a woolen scarf. No wonder she was hot. We have to put up with each other. Of course I turned the heater off.
See what I have to put up with.
In the summer time in the car she wears sandals, no hosiery, sleeveless blouses or dresses with wide freely flowing,open necks. I dress as a typical man.
She says, "Can we -- meaning me -- turn the air up, I am freezing to death. I have icicles on my toes."
"Why don't you dress more warmly? I am sitting here with sweat dripping off my nose. It is hotter than a case of stolen habanero peppers in here."
Of course I turned the air off.
See what I have to put up with.
"Why are you piling light colored and dark colored clothes in the washing machine? Don't you realize they will fade on each other?"
"Are you talking about these old clothes that I have had since 1988? Look at them. They are all old, work clothes, exercise clothes and they will not fade especially in cold water."
"Don't blame me if they do."
"I'll blame you if I want to."
"Well I won't accept the blame. By the way did you turn the thermostat down? It is cold in here."
"Yes, I did. I truly believe that 78 is too high. Our bill will be higher than the one to heat Lucas Oil Stadium; it is so hot in here and my nose is so dry I am whistling the 1812 Overture. Put on a sweater."
"I wish we had a fireplace that worked. I haven't been warm since our gas log quit two years ago."
"Why do you want the temperature higher in the winter than what you tolerate in the summer with the air on?"
"Winter air feels different."
"Feels different?"
See what I have to put up with.
"Is the TV loud enough for you?"
"Yes, it is." "Well A PERSON JUST CALLED FROM MONUMENT CIRCLE AND SAID IT IS TOO LOUD. i KNOW YOU HAVE LOST SOME OF YOUR HEARING BUT TURN IT DOWN, PLEASE."
"It is just right."
"Maybe for you, but the neighbor's dog is howling and making moves that Michael Jackson only dreamed of."
So I turned it down.
See what I have to put up with.
Larry Vandeventer grew up North of Calvertville and Graduated from Worthington High School and Indiana State. Contact him at Goosecrick@aol.com or 317-839-7656.
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